There was a time when parents were revered and respected out of fear. Even now parents are respected but more out of love than fear! If fed and nurtured with good values, kids do imbibe the best from you.
Today, the generation is different. They need a ‘mother’ until they are dependent and a ‘friend’ after that. Once their dependence period is over they need someone to talk to, someone whom they can trust, someone who does not get offended with little issues, someone they know will stand by them whatever the case. That does not give them the license to demonstrate their ill behaviour and rule the matter though. With a firm hand of help when in distress and as barrier when moving towards danger, Moms can surely be a great support system for children especially girls.
Kids from a very early age should be encouraged to talk to parents, atleast mothers. They should be initiated to talk about everyday matters – What happened in the school today? Did you play with your friends? Whom did you play with? Did you enjoy? What did the teacher teach you today? Was it fun? How was the trip to school in the bus? Did you enjoy your breakfast? – Little talks that would get them talking to you. Once this becomes a routine they themselves would talk to you about their matters. Many-a-times have I heard parents complain that their child does not talk what is happening. “He/She does not say anything.” One can not make them speak all of a sudden. It’s a process that takes time and initiation. So get started early. If you have not, better get started now as they say it’s “Better late than never”.
Always encourage them whenever they do something good and creative. Be it a class work or homework they did neatly. Be it coloring or something they tried to paint. It can be some rhyme they tried to sing or an effort to help you by bringing a dish from the table. Any good effort from a child is praise-worthy. It’s a reinforcement that even adults like us need. Encouragement really nourishes everyone! This way they will build self-confidence and would make an attempt to get something done. But from the very first do not make them feel that ‘Prize’ is the most important issue than participation when they take part in an event. Teach them to focus and get things done right. The best will win so let them learn to be the best. A healthy competition is what we need not rivalry.
Allow them to make mistakes and realize it. It would be a difficult stage to go through but sure enough it would pass. Remember that every mistake is a lesson towards a positive life. Mothers should be by their side so that they don’t get astray.
It’s truly something super to be a MOM, lot of responsibilities and commitments attached! All the mothers here would agree that it’s wonderful and worth everything!
By Deepa Gopal Sunil