Spread Some Inspiration with Philadelphia Cream Cheese

Story selected and published by Philadephia, here is the link.

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Be Inspired by Faryal Amir
Creative Mumz Founder


“I had a lot of free time and did not know how to use it. I felt there were more women of my ilk who cannot find venues to interact creatively. We organise workshops, coffee evenings, story telling sessions for children, post our queries and seek counsel from other members,” Faryal Amir

When Faryal Amir had her second child, she had to give up her job. Feeling cut off from her usual social circle, she instituted Creative Mumz, a platform for women who would share a skill, information, personal experiences with fellow members who are a mix of single women, mothers, aunties and grandmothers.

The group emerged dynamically online with interesting monthly newsletters and other online competitions. Faryal Amir, with little help from close members organises events, develops the newsletter and updates the website which has more than 500 daily visits.

Her efforts have been recognised by some leading newspapers and television channels. A notable number of women in the UAE are associated with the group and lots from all across the world through the web portal; http://www.creativemumz.com

Exclusive Launch & Book Signing Event of the novel, I Know Who You Are! at Karachi International Book Fair 2009

Liberty Books presents the

Exclusive Launch & Book Signing Event of the novel,

I Know Who You Are! by Pakistani twin authors, Mariam and Fatima Masood,

during the Karachi International Book Fair 2009.

Be at the Karachi Expo Center, Activity Area, Hall 1

on Sunday, 13th December 2009 between 1:00 -1:45 pm in the afternoon.

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All Mums say…

Found these mummy sayings interesting…all mums say these!

  • Money does not grow on trees.
  • Don’t make that face or it’ll freeze in that position.
  • Don’t put that in your mouth; you don’t know where it’s been!
  • If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
  • When you have your own house then you can make the rules!
  • What if everyone jumped off a cliff? Would you do it, too?

Authors of I KNOW WHO YOU ARE! featured in Gulf News today…

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I Know Who You Are! is available online @ Amazon

Article in Gulf News today…

Mariam and Fatima Masood

Mariam and Fatima Masood Authors of the book I Know Who You Are!

 

Twins Fatima and Mariam Masood with their book “I Know Who You Are!”
 

Twins explore personality types in co-authored work

By Nasheet Jaffer Khan, Community Solutions Editor
Published: April 02, 2009, 22:46

 

Dubai: Dubai-based twin sisters Mariam and Fatima Masood attempt to help break personality codes through their work of fiction I Know Who You Are.

The novel spins its tale around the nights and days of a 12-year-old boy, Sultan, who stumbles upon magical powers while cleaning a closet, as his family prepares to move house.

What follows is Sultan’s journey to understanding the varied personalities of people, aided by his grandfather.

Being human we have problems with humans,” 25-year-old Fatima said. “Actually, it should be the contrary. Every person has a character skin [type], which affects their manner of interaction and relationship with others.

The book surmises that if you are able to identify the personality type, you can understand people better.

 

Mariam said that sensitivity and a keen observation of people helped provide the fodder for the story.

She said: “Just because people have physical similarities, they expect each other to think alike, believe or have similar opinions, too. The book broadly categorises the basic personalities.” She is quick to add that they “don’t claim that all personalities can be categorised“.

Employed as kindergarten teachers, it took the twins a year, endless cups of tea and countless “rain cheques” for family gatherings to finalise the book and its prime characters.

When it comes to creating something from nothing there are quite a few things that have to be considered. The development of the character ‘skins’ was a challenging task as we had to make each character as powerful as the other and yet unique,” Mariam said. She added that no character had a negative side to it as “everyone has a good reason for doing what they do“.

Squint-eyed nights of research and belief in their story gave the twins the courage to push the envelope and mail it to the publishers.

Fatima said: “There were times when we used to feel stressed and disappointed, waiting for publishers and literary agents to respond. However, from the time of sending the queries to signing the publishing contract, it only took us three months.”

Thinking of the time we started writing and to see the book published has been a rewarding experience. I feel like going to the bookstore just to see the book there!” Mariam said. Fatima added: “It was similar to seeing the harvest of a crop which has been planted, nurtured, protected and prayed for day in, day out. It is still unbelievable sometimes.”

The twins said they could not have written the book without each other – it was “a joint thought”. They said: “Though we are identical, little is common between us. We still understand each other the best.”

How has the book changed their lives?

They said: “It has simplified it. We know how to deal with people more effectively.

The book is published by Olympia Publishers and is available at Jashanmal Bookstores.

 

 

“I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!”…THE BOOK RELEASING IN SPRING 2009

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” I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!” is written by Dubai based twin authors, Mariam Masood and Fatima Masood. It is being published in the United Kingdom by Olympia Publishers and shall be out in Spring 2009 with the grace of Almighty Allah.

If you are a book lover, this ones for you.

I am among one of the few first readers of the book and I must say its a very gripping piece of modern literature. The concepts put forward in the book are very unique and capture the mind of the reader. You tend to read and re-read the core lines and concepts as you unfold the mystery woven around the characters.

It would be a good handbook to keep as a guide to understand people we live with. I believe the character skins portrayed in the book are very real. As you read the book you tend to say, “Oh! yes, I know this one; it is so and so in my life..oh so now I know!!”

By Faryal

Here is what the authors have to say about it:

I Know Who You Are! is a unique novel which has a blend of fascinating fiction and hard-core reality. It not only tells the readers the story about Sultan and his family but it also reveals the secret of dealing with people successfully.

 The book presents the concept that every person has a Character Skin which guides his behaviour and inspires his conversations. If you know a person’s Character Skin, you can understand, respond and deal with him effectively.

 “Truth is only valued by the ones who are righteous, for the ones who are possessed by their own beliefs are indifferent to it.” (Mariam & Fatima Masood)

 I Know Who You Are! diversifies a person’s perspective through positive thinking. It invites its reads to explore, enjoy, reflect  and analyze the concepts the Character Skins, people, possess.   

I Know Who You Are! will be in bookstores in Spring 2009.

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NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS

Happy new year to all you mumz out there. Its great to jot down new year resolutions but the tough job is to stick to them. Have you made any new resolutions? I think we all do and I suppose we mums are real good list makers!

Here are some resolutions I think all mothers would like to stick to,

  • I will plan and organize my kitchen better, with all food stuff labelled.
  • I will plan my week’s menu in advance so I don’t have to bother to do that thinking everyday.
  • I will give more quality time to my kids, play puzzles, paint with them, play board games, hangman, draw, fly kites, read story books, hop, skip, run and make faces with them! Oh! I love being mom!
  • I will de-clutter corners of my house.
  • I will try some money saving tips my friend told me about!
  • I will work really hard this year to lose those extra kilos. (This one is on everyone’s list 😉 )
  • I will try to give some quality time to myself daily, that I always keep skipping because of my tight schedule. I will not miss my morning walk, or my morning coffee with a friend, I will not ignore my nails, hair or skin just because I could not find that 10 minutes I need to uplift my unkempt look. I will find those 10 minutes daily this year.
  • I will read good books, relax and enjoy life making an effort to forget the pain and sorrow I went through in my continuning journey – life!
  • I will organize things better by keeping a handy planner, listing important dates, my kid’s school events and most important, keep track of “things to do” by making my “TO DO LIST”.

I am sure you all will have much more to add to this list, do send in your resolutions in the comments section and share them with us.

Study Fashion Design Online with the Studio Art School

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Studio Art School, UK

Study Fashion Design Online  with the Studio Art School 

Introduction to Fashion Design and Illustration

Course summary
This is a practical project based course for those who have creative flair and an interest in Fashion, as well as a desire to produce original work. Students work to given briefs, and are encouraged to develop conceptual, analytical and problem solving skills.

Activities include:
 
Designing for fashion on the figure using figure templates
Creating ‘specification’ drawings
Illustrating fabrics and garments in a range of media
Exploring fashion trends and predictions
Undertaking market research
Learning about fabrics
Researching fashion history
Creating mood boards

Certification  
This course leads to the award of the Level 1 Certificate in Design and Crafts from the City & Guilds of London Institute, the UK’s leading provider of vocational qualifications.
On completion of this course, students may wish to progress to City & Guilds level 2,      
” Fashion Design and Illustration”.

Entry requirements
No formal entry requirements.
 

What it costs
Course fee: £290.00
 
What’s included in the fee
The course fee includes unlimited online tuition and support, together with access to course materials and to a secure personal online studio, where you can upload and store images of your work and communicate with your tutor.
 
Our courses are supported by comprehensive learning materials which provide step by step instructions, together with suggestions for further study and information on artists, techniques and materials.
What our students say.
“My experience of studying with Studio Art School has been very positive. I have found the website very easy to manage and the activities are well structured and paced. I have been very impressed with the speed and quality of the  tutors’ feedback.”. Helen, Barcelona.

When you apply please mention about CREATIVE MUMZ.

How to apply
Comprehensive details about our courses and our online application form can be found at; http://www.studioartschool.co.uk/index.aspx

Interesting Sayings!

“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.”
William Feather

“Have you got a problem? Do what you can, where you are, with what you’ve got.”
Theodore Roosevelt

“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
Carl Bard

“Don’t ignore the small things—the kite flies because of its tail.”
Hawaiian Proverb

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.”

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”
E. E. Cummings

Playscapes Wall Murals- Decorate your Kids Rooms, Ideal for Nursery

 Playscapes Wall Murals are such an exciting concept in kids rooms decorating and nursery decor! We handcraft and hand paint all the childrens’ wall art and kids’ room accessories, add Velcro pads to the back and then package our wall mural kits and freight them worldwide direct to your door!

 The Jungle theme was the first design created by Playscapes and remains the favorite to this day! Brightly coloured Jungle animals with friendly faces will adorn your childs playroom or bedroom. The gorgeous little African Rondarvel will make decorating your childs bedroom your greatest thrill.  

All you do is paint the wall in your chosen colour, plan your design then simply peel away the backing tape on the murals and adhere. In a couple of hours you will have the most gorgeous room that you did yourself! Another bonus is it is also interactive. Children are encouraged to pick the apples off the tree, fly the bees around and place them back. This improves their hand-eye coordination and fine dexterity. Another bonus is of course if you find you have to relocate, simply take your Playscapes kids’ murals ( or wall art) with you and remove the Velcro without marking the walls!

When ordering at Playscapes, please mention that you heard about Playscapes from Creative Mumz.

Website: http://www.playscapes.com.au/

Email: office@playscapes.com.au       

           Seaside Teddies theme is a warm favorite with old-fashioned Teddies and sailing boats. It is perfect decorating for the nursery and we have adorable nursery furniture to match. Childrens stools, garden seats and other hand-painted furniture are available for nursery decorating. The Seaside theme is perfect for Nursery design as it is designed for boys and girls. This childrens wall mural will be loved for years to come.   

Life..cherish it!

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Life is a precious gift, be it your own or that of a loved one. At times we are so engrossed in our daily routine and regular chores that we forget to cherish, preserve and nurture this precious gift. Hard times in our life make us realise that perhaps we are not cherishing enough what we are gifted with, how valuable we are to others and what people around us really mean to us. So I believe we should thank God more often, for each breath we take in peace, for he time we spend with our loved ones, for the strength He gives us to go through difficult situations and then for blessing us with happiness, family, love and health. So smile more often, enjoy the happy times cause we never know what is there for us in the future!

Happy Living!

SAYINGS ABOUT LIFE

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

– Dr. Seuss

Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt and dance like no one is watching.

– Randall G Leighton

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.

– Unknown

Feelings change – memories don’t.

– Joel Alexander

Forgive your enemies, but never, never forget their names.

– John F. Kennedy

Being sad with the right people is better than being happy with the wrong ones.

– Philippos

Never allow someone to be your priority while you’re just their option

– Unknown

My best dreams and worst nightmares have the same people in them.

– Philippos

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Nutrition For Toddlers/Children

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Mums, its best that we give our kids snacks that are high in nutrition. Here are some ideas for snacks for your little ones. Even older kids can be given nutritious foods between meals to promote health and cut down on extra calories gained by consuming sugary high fat snacks. 

Snacks for Toddlers

The best snacks are mini meals, not meal wreckers, so start small and give your child just enough to hold him until the next meal. Of course, this does not always work out perfectly with one- and two-year-olds, since their appetites are erratic. It’s OK if your child ends up eating a bigger snack as long as it’s healthy.

  • Fruit juice
  • Natural cheese such as cheddar.
  • Milk (full-fat for up to two years old)
  • Yogurt (full-fat for up to two years old)
  • Hard-cooked eggs
  • Cottage cheese (full-fat for up to two years old)
  • Tuna
  • Whole grain breads and crackers
  • Fruit (with the exception of whole grapes)
  • Weetabix with milk 
  • Fresh fruit blended with milk
  • Pudding made with full-fat milk
  • Dry cereal or a small bowl of cereal with milk
  • Vegetable juices
  • Well-cooked vegetables such as a sliced, peeled sweet potato
  • Tortillas

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20 Ideas for Kids Birthday Party Favors

If you are planning your kid’s birthday party, here are fun ideas for party favors… The children will love these return gifts!

1.Stuffed animals

2.Finger puppets

3.Puzzles

4.Pencil toppers according to birthday theme

5.Stickers according to birthday theme

6.Masks

7.Glow in the dark jewelery

8.Glow in the dark stars for decoration

9.Bookmarks

10.Key chains

11.Mini photo frames

12.Candy

13.Yoyo

14.Craft kits

15.Themed hats

16.Themed T-shirts

17.Mini water guns

18.Flutes and whistles

19.Fridge magnets

20.Balloons

 

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20 Ideas for Kids Birthday Party Favors

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If you are planning your kid’s birthday party, here are fun ideas for party favors… The children will love these return gifts!

1.Stuffed animals

2.Finger puppets

3.Puzzles

4.Pencil toppers according to birthday theme

5.Stickers according to birthday theme

6.Masks

7.Glow in the dark jewelery

8.Glow in the dark stars for decoration

9.Bookmarks

10.Key chains

11.Mini photo frames

12.Candy

13.Yoyo

14.Craft kits

15.Themed hats

16.Themed T-shirts

17.Mini water guns

18.Flutes and whistles

19.Fridge magnets

20.Balloons

 

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Mums in Dubai and Sharjah-Shopping, Kids Play Areas and Coffee..

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Life for mums in the United Arab Emirates is great. I have been here since 1995 and have seen it grow into a stronger economy and a society that provides opportunities to all, provided we seek to work hard and hunt for new doors to success. And its a shopper’s paradise. Mothers have many stores to choose from to buy stuff for their babies and kids. Baby items, toys, clothes, accessories, excellent stuff and innovative mommy help gadgets are also available. You can check out The Baby Shop, Early Learning Centre, Monalisa, Toys’r’Us, Good Baby, Mothercare, Baby Land and many more.

There are many play areas where the kids have fun and at the same time develop their gross motor skills, coordination and balancing skills. Mums can relax with a cup of coffee, chat and watch their little ones having a blast!

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Sayings-Mums, Dads and Children

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  • All mothers hope that their daughters will find a better husband than she did, and are convinced that their sons will never find as good a wife as their fathers did. 
  • We spent the first twelve months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk, and the next twelve telling them to sit down and shut up. 
  • Children are incredibly good imitators.No matter how hard you try to teach them good manners, they always behave exactly like their parents.
  • Children fill the home with peace when they sleep.
  • Precocious children can be a pain. childish adults are worse.
  • Only after seeing how your grandchildren turn out can you see if you brought up your own children well.
  • Before I got married, I had six theories about bring up children. Now I have six children and no theories.
  • Children seldom misquote you. Infact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.
  • How is it that little children are so intelligent and men so stupid. It must be education that does it?

I found these interesting sayings and thought of sharing them with you all.

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Creative Mumz @ the Used Book Festival, Sharjah


Creative Mumz is participating in the

Used Book Festival organized by

Sharjah City for Humanitarian Services,

at Qanat Al Qasba, Sharjah

29th-31st of March 2007 (Thursday – Saturday)

from 10am – 10pm.

We are collecting used books for the event. The books will be sold at our tent at Qanat Al Qasba and , sale proceeds of the same will be donated to benefit special needs children. Please make a contribution by collecting used unwanted books (non-school books), you can ask your friends as well since this is for a good cause. Please support the event, your contribution is highly appriciated. All kinds of books, any language can be donated.

Kindly write to me if you would like to donate books so I can tell you where to deliver them (Dubai and Sharjah). I shall apprecite if the donation can be made by the 25th of March.

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You are also invited to attend the festival with your family and friends and have a look at all the books there. Many schools, universities and organizations are participating  in the event. Since Qanat Al Qasba is a great family outing spot, I am sure we all will have a great time while supporting a good cause.

Thanks a lot. Hoping to get a great response from all of you.

Best regards,

Faryal Amir
Coordinator Creative Mumz
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Inspiration…Where can we find it?

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Look deep with in yourself…deep down… there is someone very pure, very innocent, very loving, very sensitive and above all very inspiring!

Life can sometimes be very stressful and everything may seem gloomy. When we are low, distressed, in grief, we long for someone to pat our shoulder, inspire us and say, “Don’t worry, all will be fine. Get up and get going, boost your energy, look at the brighter side, find happiness in the simple things you have and make the most of them, fill yourself with courage, enthusiasm and self worth, you are doing a good job, I appreciate you.” But most of the time we do not find anyone to console us.

The best and the most honest person to uplift our spirits is our own SELF. The best inspiration a person can find is with in him/herself. Because we truly understand what we are going through, we respect the fact that we are hurt and sincerely want to do something about it. We are our best well wisher. So go ahead complement yourself for what you are and what you do. Be your own stimulus and your life will change for the better!

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Dos and Don’ts of Answering Children’s Questions

Dos and Don’ts of Answering Children’s Questions Dos:· Always pay attention to your children’s questions and listen carefully when they ask you something. Even if you are in the middle of something really important, divert full attention to your child. Value your child’s curiosity.

  • Be honest. You are your child’s guide and whatever you say has a deep impact on your child’s thoughts and perception of things. Give accurate information.
  • Provide information in simple, concrete and concise sentences.
  • Your language should be comprehendible, keeping in mind the child’s age and level of understanding.
  • Check if the child has understood by having him/her repeat the answer in his/her own words. If it comes back and you can make sense of it, the message has been received!
  • There aren’t always answers. It’s alright to say, ‘I don’t know, but that was a good question.’
  • If it’s a painful, sensitive or emotional subject, it’s important to tell why.
  • Your child has approached you with a question and is ready to receive information. Grab this opportunity to convey good morals and values, if appropriate, since the child is ready to absorb what you are about to say.
  • Be prepared to answer more questions once they get answers to their first ones.

Don’ts:· Never discourage you kid from asking questions. It may be the last time he/she came to you to request information.· Avoid long and confusing sentences. · Never provide false or misleading information.· Never try to avoid further conversation and questions by saying, ‘No more questions.’ “Why?” “Because I said so.” Clear the child’s doubts till he/she is satisfied.· Do not avoid questions on sensitive issues. Children know when we are trying to get away from answering difficult ones. They may then try to find other sources to get information and that may sometimes have a negative influence on them.· Even if you are getting irritable with repeated questions, never show it your child. Find out more about our groups activities, up coming meet up in Dubai, log on to www.creativemumz.com

Newsletter for mommys

Free monthly newsletter…a good way to keep track of what’s happening at Creative Mumz. Visit our website www.creativemumz.com  to sign up for latest updates on our group’s activities. We send out tips, recipes, updates of our events and more. You can contribute by sending in tips and recipes or other interesting short articles that would interest mothers.

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‘Must Haves’ in mommy’s hand bag

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Mommy hand bags are instant problem solvers. In times of need or emergency, we happen to find almost everything required to fix the situation. Therefore, mommy hand bags must be ORGANIZED. I feel the following are must haves for a mommy’s hand bag.

1. Tissues

2. Individually packed wipes (antibacterial will be an advantage)

3. Safety pins

4. Panadol tablets

5. Small scotch tape

6. Band aid strips (3-4)

7. Little snacks for the little ones

8. Pen and Post-it (Special lists for shopping)

9. Small toys to keep little ones busy (Small cars, balls, rattle)

10. List of important contacts incase a mobile is not carried

11. Money and enough change

12. Telephone card in case mobile is not carried

13. Medical cards for all family members

14. Membership and kids entertainment centre cards.

15. Driving License 

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What makes a mother strong?

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1. Her children’s smiles and tender touch. Kid’s smiles are like turbo boosters when a mother feels low. And they work as heart softeners when she is cross. Their sweet emotions give inner strength. When nothing can cheer up a mother, her little one’s smile and hug will do the trick.  

2. A mother is not and never will be alone in her thoughts. Her children’s memories, tales and worries will always be with her. Whether she is cooking, cleaning, at work or just relaxing on a couch, she always has her kids on her mind.  

3.  The precious friendship of her kids is her greatest strength and an ultimate source of experiencing new worlds everyday.  

4. When her 6 year old kid makes a card for her and writes, “Mummy I love you. I am with you.” Sometimes such reassurance, strength and hope that a mother gets from these innocent words makes a mother forget all her worries. 

5. The dream to see her kids grow up to be responsible human beings gives a mother all the strength to work hard for them in spite of all odds. 

6. The trust that she can see in her child’s eyes, in all that she tells and does for him. The belief that my mother will always be there for me when I need her. 

7. A mother derives strength from her kid’s problems and fears. She has to build courage to accept these issues and provide wise solutions to tackle these problems. A mother has to be strong to face certain fears of her children with them. 

8. A thank you note that she finds on the fridge for something little that she did for her child, which she never felt was worthy of acknowledgement but was noted by her little one. 

9. The commitment that she is responsible for rearing and moulding the next generation. The thought that, with patience, guidance and support a mother can mould lives, makes her go an extra mile.  

10. The thought that she is blessed with the best gift a lady can wish for. Her kids are her priceless possession!  Someone who will relate to her and who will always need her no matter how old they get. This is a magical feeling that only a mother feels many times in a single day.  

 

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The First Story

I have penned down the very first story that my mother had told me when I was five years old. We lived in Muscat at that time. Its simplicity and innocence makes it lovable. And the message in it is what all mommys want their kids to get! Read the story on this link. www.writers.creativemumz.com on the stories page.

You may send in your original articles and stories (Short ones please) to writers.creativemumz@gmail.com along with your name, occupation and country, to be published on this new website Creative Mumz Writers Club. Kids can send in their original poems with their name and age.

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Anger Management-Over Criticism by Parents

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At Creative Mumz we believe in nurturing the parent-child bond. Although all parents including me claim and really do love their kids more than anything, but at times our love falls prey to our own frustrations and anger. We might loose control in difficult situations but need to educate ourselves to keep our cool, be more understanding and reasonable, esp. when dealing with kids. 

The following article is very thought provoking, so I felt like sharing it with all of you.

The most popular emotional wrecking tool with parents is over-criticism.
The slogan of the over-critical parent is “I’ll get that kid to shape up even if it kills him! After all, its for his/her OWN good! They will thank me some day!”

The really dedicated over-critical parent rides the kid’s back from the moment his feet touch the floor in the morning until he passes out at night! They become angry to the point of rage (or violence) whenever their kid “fails” to live up to their expectations. They resort to all kinds of ways and means to punish and “humiliate” the kid to live up to their unrealistic expectations and standards. The apparent aim of this kind of misguided parent(s) is to build the child up by tearing them down! The end result of course is just that, a torn down, broken hearted and bitter(angry) kid!

The child (victim) of the over-critical parent’s “good intentions” soon starts to feel that he or she just can’t do anything right! Whenever he or she falls short of perfection, they are made to feel they are a total screw up. And he now begins to feel that, since he or she has failed to live up to their parent’s impossibly high standards and expectations, he doesn’t therefore deserves their love and respect. A deep and dark feeling of “self-contempt” (anger at self) and worthlessness overwhelms him to the point of self-destructive behavior. Kids resent (are angry about) being “put down” and insulted all the time ESPECIALLY by their OWN parents! They rebel against it, and parents then wonder “whats gotten into him ?”

Since he has been made to feel he’s a “loser” by HIS OWN PARENT(S), he will now dramatize (act out) this conviction for the rest of his life.

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Before I was a Mom!

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This is an article that Shagufta, my friend and member of Creative Mumz has sent to be added to the Creative Mumz newsletter. I thought I could post it here instead for all of you to read.

“Before I was a Mom, I ate hot meals.  I would sit at the table without
having to get up for extra napkins, ketchup, or to pick up the spoon that
was hurdled across the room.  I never had to say, Clean your plate or no
dessert!
I was able to talk on the phone for hours at a time without interruptions.Before I was a Mom, I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about
what time I got into bed. My house was always clean.  There were never dishes in the sink or crumbs left on the table.  I never tripped over toys or made up my own games or a lullaby to sooth a crying baby.

Before I was a Mom, I didn’t worry whether my plants were poisonous, if the
coffee table had sharp corners or if the electrical sockets were exposed. I had complete control of my mind, my thoughts, my body
and all my feelings and emotions.

Before I was a Mom, I never held down a screaming child so that doctors
could do tests or give shots. I never thought about immunizations or
learned how to read a thermometer.  I never looked into teary eyes and
cried with compassion.  I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn’t stop the
hurt.  I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much.
I never knew that I could love someone so unconditionally.

Before I was a Mom, I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn’t want
to put it down or stayed up late at night just to watch it sleep so
peacefully. I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart outside my
body.  I didn’t know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.  
Before I was a Mom, I had never gotten out of bed in the middle of the
night to make sure that everyone was covered with blankets and had their
teddy bear & just in case.

Before I was a Mom, I didn’t know I was capable of feeling so much.  I had
never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache or the
satisfaction that being a Mom can bring.  I never knew just how much I
would love being a mom. I never fully understood my own mother’s joys and
sorrows.  I didn’t appreciate everything she did for me or really thank her
enough for the wisdom she shared.   Before I was a mom I never loved my
mother the same way I do now.

My life has changed & there is no doubt about it, but there isn’t anything
I would be willing to do or any gift I’d be willing to receive to go back
to the days of Before I was a Mom.”

A Goal a Day!

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Accomplish a goal a day!  We usually are working hard everyday to accopmplish our short as well as long term goals that may be personal, family or work related. There may be time involved before you accomplish these, thus keeping you waiting to get a sense of accomplishment. Accomplishment acts as a catalyst to promote one’s self esteme, self confidence and moral.

Therefore apart from these goals, I believe in setting simple daily goals as well. Something special, something that will give me a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. Something I like doing. Thus charging my energies. Try setting goals that can be fun or creativity oriented, so that you feel happy and relaxed each day. Plan a day ahead about what you would like to do tomorrow. Perhaps brainstorm at night before sleeping. Examples could be, setting out 30 minutes to complete an art project, writing a short article or incident, drawing, acquiring a new skill, reading short stories, organizing your paper work, arranging your stuff at home, walk with a friend, searching the net for articles of interest, writing down your ideas in a note pad and reading all at the end of the month, learning 10 new words and their meanings using a dictionary, rearranging your room or setting, read a story to a child in the house, and other things that you like doing and can be completed on the same day in a short time.

Creative Mumz (www.creativemumz.com) encourages all mothers to set daily goals as well, assign special time to attain simple, short and  satisfying goals that would make them feel happy and relaxed.

Magic Potion

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My elder son started school when he was three and within the first month of his nursery school he started getting sick. He used to get throat infections, coughs, blocked nose, wheezing and high fever. This continued and our visits to doctors increased. He used to end up getting an antibiotic doze every month on average. We saw many doctors, the child had many blood tests and lung x-rays to check for mucus. His tonsils and adinoids got enlarged, had pus in the tonsils and the child snored at night. One ENT specialist suggested tonsil operation at the age of 3.5 years. We were all very worried since getting down with high fever and pus in the throat became a regular feature. We had tried all medicines, tonics and herbals.

Then by God’s grace, one of my friend who is from India told me about SEPTILIN.  This is a product by Himalaya Herbals which enhances the bodies immunity and helps in cases of tonsils, sinus and similar issues. Mashallah my son has been having this mdicine since 1 year and with Allah’s grace he is keeping well. I give him regularly as a tonic and esp. when he starts to get a cold. I would suggest all mothers to try it with kids even elders can have it and it should inshallah prove to be the magic potion for you. But remember it is God who is the healer and not the medicine! 

Since we benefited from this medicine, I wanted to share this with all of you. You can perhaps search about it on the net to buy it online.

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The truth about truth!

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The truth about truth is, “practicing it might sometimes cause you the most harm.” Many situations may arise in life when we can get way with false statements, facts and expressions. And this is what people at times. Because saying the right thin and accepting the true fact can get you into trouble. The question is, “are we ready to practice saying and accepting truth?” (Truth about the world, life, people and most important about us!)

We may always preach to be truthful, but how truthful are we?  Infact, to listen to the right thing, the true story, the right facts and accepting it, is the most difficult thing to do for many. Because we are not trained to do so, even if we are we are not strong enough to accept it!

And I think this is where parents, most importantly the mother comes into the picture. We as parents need to enable the next generation to say and accept the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. There is a constant need to educate and train our kids to develop inner strength to face facts rather than hiding them or moulding them to fit in or win situations.

And to do this, we need to be role models first. Here we can follow the saying, “practice what you preach.” Because truth is what will eventually prevail!!

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Happy Mommy, Happy Family

www.creativemumz.com A happy mother makes a happy family. It is very vital that the mother of the house is happy, at peace mentally and smiling. Work around the house, crying babies, fighting sibblings, dirty laundry, stinking nappies, burnt toast and juice spilt on the new carpet can really put the home minister off! All this daily stress needs to be battled by the mother. It is then up to all others in the family to give her, if not many, atleast a couple of reasons to smile. A little ‘thank you’ note or ‘mommy you are the best’, getting a rose at the end of a tiring day, a big hug and continuous reassurance that she is respected for all her effort, is all that it takes to make a mother happy. It simple but it needs to be done.

So to all of you out there, send a little ‘love you mom’ note to the person who worked so hard to make you capable of what you are doing now!

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